allowing infants to “cry it out”
DR. HOLT IS A DICK
And according to Grok…The practice of allowing infants to “cry it out” (CIO) without picking them up to encourage independent sleep—often called sleep training or extinction—originated in the late 19th century. The earliest known advocate was Luther Emmett Holt, an American pediatrician.
Although Dr. Spock advocated to pick them up to comfort, he advocated for feed them when they’re hungry and a structureless regime.
Both assholes.
Look what kind of people we now have in the world.
Go online, read. Goodness forbid you go down the deep rabbit hole of the relationships. And they drop into your algorithms… Have you been reading? Narcists, we used to just call assholes and avoidants we would call runners. We would just stay away from them, but now, they are littered within our society. There is no getting away from them…unless…you find someone who has “done the work” to understand why their love lives have not worked out..
So, it turns out, Freud was always blaming the mum, he was partially right. It’s the family structure. That’s it. The family structure. And based upon that family structure is how your environment is shaped, which leads to your shaping as a human and how you interact with others.
As humans are as a human, there are some basics…feeling safe, your physical needs being met, receiving love. That’s it. It’s up to your parents to provide the safety of health and the basics of food, shelter, clothing and it’s up to they around to supply love. So much in our society breaks down from the very beginning.
Safety – how is that possible when a parent leaves a child in a crib and never comes when they cry. So the baby learns, NO ONE IS COMING. No safety. No secure feeling. That idea has just ruined the base-line for that newly shaped human. Mankind has a structure, just like a building, and without a base, it is not sound. Now that human begins to grow up and interacts. They want what every human wants, love… but this poor person is unable to love, because they have no baseline of safety, and it bleeds into their relationships. And now, look at society, we have more divorces than ever and Gen Z has no intention of marriage.
So now, here we are Gen X and we have no idea why our marriages and families have fallen apart. Why aren’t they lasting like the WWI families. We blame it on so many variables, which are true, but there is so much more to it…but then again, there is nothing to it…because it’s so basic.
Stop pawning off your children because you need money and feed them on regular basis. Structure breeds security because the babies will KNOW somebody is coming and that they will be fed. So basic. Now, let’s improve mankind.